I am sure all of you are wondering how in depth and personal is the Home Study? How long does it take? What type of questions do they ask?
I hope I can help answer some of the questions. We chose to complete our Home Study with a private agency. We chose to do this because DCF free Home Study was backed out for months and months. They also told us that they complete older children Home Studies first and foster Home Studies. For us, we are seeking ages 2-10. This meant to us, it could be a year before they complete our Home Study for free. The money was worth it to us. We paid $1,000 for our Home Study. Our agency is excersizing 2-step Home Study process. First, is the Zoom interview and second is the walk-through.
For the Zoom virtual Home Study interview session, here is what I can advise or inform.
It took 2 hours. We logged on at 8:30pm and finished at 10:30pm. They worked with our schedule well since there is a lot going on with work/kids/PRIDE class/ and infamous Covid-19.
We had already completed a written interview questionnaire which initiated our conversation. We started by discussing our family upbringing. Brian has a what I like to call "cookie-cutter" family. Both of Brian's parents were married before having children and they have remained married. They resemble a very loving and nurturing persona. They are always supportive of each other and anyone else in their distant family as well.
My family on the other hand.....I had a great mom whom was always there for me but my dad was never there for me. The questions were personal but not too invasive. They wanted to know how being brought up without my dad impacted my life as a child and as an adult. I simply explained that I was sad for a little while but I connected strongly with my mom as a child. My mom supported and cared for me as any parent would.
Next, They asked about religion. Brian & I are not religious even though we both grew up in catholic households. Our 6 year-old daughter is extremely religious. We were asked what we would do if our adopted child worships a different religion? How will we support their faith? We explained that currently with Kinsley we do not worship but we are sure to provide her information and knowledge required for her to decide her own opinion on religion. We provide children's books, conversation, and prayers for Kinsley to make her own decision which has led her with a strong faith for Christianity. We would do the same for our adopted child as well. We will always be supportive and provide all education needed.
What if your adopted children still have contact with their bio-parents? hm...what....
I had never really thought of this being a thing since we were not fostering and we were adopting I presumed that parental rights would be terminated leaving the child with no parental contact but I learned that even though parental rights are terminated, the child may still have a relationship with their parents. This happened to be an easy answer for me even though I had not thought of this scenario. My birth child goes to her dad's house every other weekend and just as she gets to visit her other parents house, I would make sure our adopted child also gets to have visitation via zoom, supervised, or un-supervised (whichever is safe and agreed by caseworker)
Last, the agency had to interview my bio-child. She s usually a shy child until she opens up so I was not sure how this would go. She asked her "Do you know what adoption is?" Bio-child said No. then she said "Well, you know mommy & Brian want to get you a sibling, right?" She said Yes. Then she said "How does that make you feel?" She says, Nice. That was most of the conversation. Quick short and appropriate.
I hope this blog helps!